Yes, they do.
That was one of the hardest things for me to comprehend when I began my journey to healing from Narcissistic Abuse.
I’ve had plenty of experience with Narcissists throughout my life, both Overt & Covert.
And I survived many vile attacks by my Malignant Narcissist ex-husband.
In my opinion, hell yes, they plan the horrible things they do.
That’s what their minds stay focused on.
Who to attack.
How to attack.
What they’ll gain from the attack.
Why they’re entitled to attack.
Then they fine-tune their plans and strike.
Whether or not the victim realizes the extent of the abuse, the narcissist does.
They know exactly what they’re doing because they planned to do it.
All abuse is traumatic.
All narcissists are pieces of shit.
But the absolute most vile attacks on me came from a Malignant Narcissist.
My husband of almost two decades did evil and inhumane things to my son and me.
By far worse than anything I had ever experienced.
Things that, even now, I can’t yet put into words.
And he planned it all.
What is so incomprehensible is that he didn’t just become enraged and hurt me.
Or destroy my most treasured belongings because I got in his face.
It wasn’t just an anger management problem.
Or bipolar disorder.
It wasn’t because he was abused as a child.
It was because he was playing a game with my health and sanity for entertainment.
The son of a bitch planned it all beforehand.
He intentionally cracked my skull.
He deliberately broke my fingers.
He meant to wrap his hands around my neck and try to squeeze the life out of me.
He knew which method of attack he was going to use before an argument had even begun.
He told me several times that he always had a reason for everything he did.
Those were probably the only times he was ever telling the truth.
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